Cultivate Divinity In You

Nurture an angel in you! Make your behavior towards others unconditional, irrespective of what they think about you. You would always be surrounded by rivals and competitors no matter where you are. Be alert and vigilant without feeling intimidated. Do not hate them because they are jealous of you. Hate the hatred in them. Michel de Montaigne very aptly commented-

“Of all our infirmities, the most
Savage is to despise our being”

Your attitude towards others should be that of categorical support and unreserved stance. Express your human character and instincts but at the same time, do not restrict yourself to a single wavelength. Develop a whole gamut of frequencies within you. You should decide when you want to be a human being and when you want to express Divinity. In your chosen moments of divinity, let you be the forgiver and the healer, the nurturer and the provider! Let your character epitomize forgiveness, compassion, generosity, kindness and affection. Mother Teresa once said- “If you judge people, you have no time to love them”.

Deal with others’ faults as gently as you would with your own. Forgive them for the wrongs they have done to you. Do not harbor ill feelings for anyone. Do not carry the burden of bitterness and enmity on your tender heart. Forgive and forget. Though it is easier said than done but it is well worth a try. As Henry Wheeler Shaw, a humorist has described- “There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.”
Never hold a grudge against anyone who has hurt you or cheated you. I find the words of Jane Rubietta very apt-

“Someone may have stolen your dream when
it was young and fresh and you were innocent.
Anger is natural. Grief is appropriate.
Healing is mandatory. Restoration is possible”

Whatever harm has been done to you cannot be undone. Revenge cannot heal your wounds. Do not leave your wounds open or they will end up becoming painful, non-healing ulcers. The best way to deal with it is to forget and forgive. It takes a large heart to forgive someone who has hurt you. But if you do not forgive, you will be the one who will suffer the most. Those wounds might leave occasional scars but at least they will not be painful. But the ulcers will ooze and bleed repeatedly and worst, you will be forced to remember them forever. The recurring thoughts of someone having caused injury or harm to you will perpetuate more bitterness in you. You will then experience a strong urge to give back the bitterness to the one who hurt you. It will become a vicious cycle and prove to be destructive for both sides.

Erase bad memories from your mind and engrave the fond ones on your heart- practice this theory of selectivity and you will make your life very pleasant. Neutralize the poison that you have for others and spread the nectar of kindness and affection.

Take It Easy

Reject the cynical approach in life and abandon being a misanthropist. Stop looking at everyone with suspicious eyes. Learn to trust people and have faith in them. Life is not a game of chess where you need to be wary of your opponent’s moves every second and plan yours accordingly. Do make strategies in life but don’t be obsessed with the game plans 24x7. Avoid thinking on the line of attack all the time. Live your life like a civilian in a peaceful country not like a soldier on the front facing a hostile nation’s bitter army!

Give “benefit of doubt” to others- accept them with an assumption that they all have good intentions. However, keep your eyes and ears open and be on the vigil. Do not blindly trust anyone. This might sound contradictory but this is what life is- a juxtaposition of two extremes!

Surviving in today’s world might not be simple but it is not all that complicated either. All the complexities and intricacies can be broken down into smaller fractions and tackled one by one. The key word is patience and persistence.

Enjoy your work and make it your passion. Be practical in your approach. Shun outright perfectionism because it disturbs the balance of life by swaying things to one extreme. It is wise to follow the ninety-five percent rule- aspire to meet the ninety-five percent target in whatever you do. That way, the psychological pressure of touching hundred percent is circumvented and you can do considerably well in life!

Whatever you choose to do, follow your heart. Do not get caught in the rat race and don’t do things because others are doing them. Do what appeals to your sensibilities and do it at your pace. It is your life, handle it your own way. Strike a balance in your life so that there is perfect harmony.

You don’t need to renounce the world, relinquish the worldly pleasures and go to the Himalayas in search of happiness. Nor can any amount of money bring you peace of mind. Tranquility cannot be searched for in the outside world. It has to be attained and realized from within. Doing things that are close to your heart will give you satisfaction and help you ward off turbulence from your life.

“Serenity isn't freedom from the storm,

But peace within the storm”

Make the most of your life. Although you cannot increase the quantity, but you can certainly improve the quality of the life that you live. Spend a pleasant, quiet moment with your inner self once in a while. Take time out from your hectic schedule to listen to your inner voice. Learn to take it easy especially when stress levels are soaring high. Unwind and relax yourself. Do whatever suits you. Meditate, do yoga, carry on breathing exercises, tend to your garden or go for a walk. Spend some moments in solitude. Give yourself time for introspection. Unfurl the human side of yours. Rejuvenate your mind, body and soul. Celebrate the fact that you are alive and kicking. Slowly your life will be filled with happiness and you would take delight in living your life to the fullest!

Rise Above Mediocrity

Do not let yourself get drowned in the sea of mediocrity. Whatever you do, give it your best shot. Let excellence be your middle name and superlative performance be the hallmark of your personality.
You don't need to do something out of the world to prove your calibre. Whatever you do, put your heart and soul into it and do it to the best of your ability.

Make your life pleasant

Everyone wants to live a perfect life-full of happiness and contentment. Perfect life is not inherited or gifted. It is developed. Life will never be the way you want it. But you can choose to live it the best way you can. No one will grant you a perfect life, but you can fill it with perfect moments!